Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone. If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Romans 12:17-18 (NIV)
Who are you? That may seem like an odd question, but it’s important as it relates to this verse. Is your name Lord? Probably not. So, why do we consistently do the things that fall under God’s job description? Get this point – God is the one who will avenge us and be our defense when people do things to us that are wrong (see the verse below). This is God’s responsibility, not ours. It’s not your job to “fight fire with fire”. God has more than enough intelligence and power to avenge you in this matter. Let God be God.
Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord. Romans 12:19 (NIV)
But what happens when a spouse (or family member) does something wrong against you? Do you respond out of anger to defend yourself? Here is a marriage tip – do good to your spouse despite their actions. Why? God loves you despite your actions. Furthermore, your spouse is not your enemy. Let’s take this slow … YOUR-SPOUSE-IS-NOT-YOUR-ENEMY. The enemy (satan) is your enemy – not your spouse. So, if you are having issues with your spouse, what is the best way to defeat the true enemy to your marriage? Do good to your spouse. You overcome evil by doing good. It may take all the restraint that you have, but you should do good so that your spouse can be transformed by the love that they see operating in your speech and actions. Let this be your plan for 2017:
- When your spouse makes you angry: Do good to them
- When a family member tries to start an argument: Do good to them
- When a co-worker frustrates you: Do good to them
Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good. Romans 12:21 (NIV)