Marriage reality sets in. Delight becomes delusion. Ideal turns to ordeal. Dating is now debating. The times in Stage 2 are very different than Stage 1 (see the post from yesterday for Stage 1). We marry sinners (we are all sinners saved by God’s grace) and life is hard. We often want to blame our spouse for stress. The fact is, we are just so different from our spouse—and it is all part of God’s plan.
Do you know where your fights and arguments come from? They come from the selfish desires that war within you. You want things, but you do not have them. So you are ready to kill and are jealous of other people, but you still cannot get what you want. So you argue and fight. You do not get what you want, because you do not ask God. James 4:1-2 (NCV)
The way to bury a marriage is a lot of little digs. Arguments break out because you don’t get what you want. Learning to fight fair is part of maturity. My friend, you have 3 options: Break up, Break down (commit to being together and miserable forever), or Break Through (God’s plan for your marriage).
Consider: How much of this is your responsibility? Do what you can to “clean your side of the street”. Most marriages do not survive Stage 2. Will you do what it takes to break through to true love?
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